Great article. Valuable advice for any age but especially for those of us over 50. It is a form of "letting go" which we need to learn and practice because we alcoholics and addicts are not wired this way. But, with practice, the benefit is considerable and important.
Thank you Ron. That letting go can be so hard and painful, can't it? Letting go of who we were, or thought we were, or who we wanted to be, or thought we needed to be. The middle years crept up without me really noticing, and now I guess I've passed the middle, and I'm still not sure I know who I am! I wonder if anyone ever really works it out? I'm starting to realise that as soon as I work it out, I change again, so maybe I'll never fully grasp it. But it's certainly an interesting journey to find out!
Who are you in terms of essential qualities and character? Honest? Caring? Empathetic? Fearful? Doubts? You get the point. This approach has lead me to my truce 'center' and I work at staying "on the beam".
Yes. I don't even know if I ever got many of them, I spent a lot of time with music blasting in my ears so would have been oblivious a lot of the time. But now I look in the mirror and the only person whose view of how I look matters is me, and it turns out I care a lot less about the colour of my hair, the dark circles under my eyes and the tummy bump than I thought I did 🤣
Great article. Valuable advice for any age but especially for those of us over 50. It is a form of "letting go" which we need to learn and practice because we alcoholics and addicts are not wired this way. But, with practice, the benefit is considerable and important.
Ron
Thank you Ron. That letting go can be so hard and painful, can't it? Letting go of who we were, or thought we were, or who we wanted to be, or thought we needed to be. The middle years crept up without me really noticing, and now I guess I've passed the middle, and I'm still not sure I know who I am! I wonder if anyone ever really works it out? I'm starting to realise that as soon as I work it out, I change again, so maybe I'll never fully grasp it. But it's certainly an interesting journey to find out!
Who are you in terms of essential qualities and character? Honest? Caring? Empathetic? Fearful? Doubts? You get the point. This approach has lead me to my truce 'center' and I work at staying "on the beam".
Cheers
Beautiful writing! Sending lots of love and care your way! 💐
Thank you Catherine 💜 sending the same right back to you ❤️
Authentic, revealing and risking bein vulnerable. Good on you, and this for sure:
"The work will never be done, but you need the rest and self care anyway."
Still true even at advanced ages and stages as I have come to know them.
This is beautiful. I love the idea of savouring the small joys of being alive
Yes. I don't even know if I ever got many of them, I spent a lot of time with music blasting in my ears so would have been oblivious a lot of the time. But now I look in the mirror and the only person whose view of how I look matters is me, and it turns out I care a lot less about the colour of my hair, the dark circles under my eyes and the tummy bump than I thought I did 🤣